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Mixing It Up: Our Favorite Ceremony Traditions Celebrating Blended Families

 

Mixing It Up: Our Favorite Ceremony Traditions Celebrating Blended Families

Weddings are a beautiful symbolic ceremony that celebrate the union of two lives—and sometimes, those lives include kids! To recognize this creation of a new family, many couples opt to include a special moment in their ceremony. We’ve been lucky enough to witness (and make happen) a few of these really poignant traditions in our weddings, and love the unique different ways families are able to express their love and devotion to the new unit they are creating.

One favorite such moment was when bride Khadijah was able to include her two daughters in her ceremony through a tree locking rite. In the rite, Khadijah and groom Andre placed a lock on a metal tree plaque, symbolizing their permanent bond. With the girls as a part of this rite, the couple declared their commitment to the unbreakable bond between themselves and their children, too.

Photography by: George Street Photo

Photography by: George Street Photo

Photography by: George Street Photo

Photography by: George Street Photo

For children who are a bit older (but young ones can do this, too!), a popular option is to include them as members of the wedding party. Having your daughter or son in a position of honor, right by your side during the exchanging of vows, is a powerful statement, too. Just ask happy couple Lynn and Jeff!

Photography by: A. Fatouros Photography

Photography by: A. Fatouros Photography

Photography by: A. Fatouros Photography

Photography by: A. Fatouros Photography

These are just two examples of the wonderful ways blended families can demonstrate their commitment to coming together. There seem to be so many great options nowadays! We’ve come up with a list of three that we’re really digging right now. Check it out:

1. Special vows.

Take the declaration to the next level: say it out loud! There are so many ways to include special vows to children during the ceremony. One great way is to invite the child (or children) to stand with the bride and groom, and have the new parent share their verbal commitment to both their partner and their children. A nice touch: introducing the child (or children) by sharing all the great, admirable qualities they possess, and why they are part of what makes the new family unit so special. Another great idea is to have the child (or children) prepare their own vows of support for their parent’s union with their partner. It’s a great way to show how the child (or children) are an active part of the new family. Yet another great option is having the officiant ask the family to voice their commitment together through a series of promises (to love, protect, and respect each other; to encourage and support each other; etc.). These are just a few ideas; the more creative and tailored to the individual family’s identity, the better! Vows are an excellent way to communicate with the world the loving, humorous, and sweet qualities that make each blended family unique.

2. Tree planting.

This ritual is popular even in weddings without children, and makes for a very meaningful symbolic moment. Also, it doesn’t involve fire—so for those of you wary of little hands not handling a unity candle well, this is an excellent alternative! In the tree planting ritual, the new family plant a small tree in a pot—as an added touch, some of the soil used can be from a significant location (hometown, a favorite family vacation destination, etc.). Not only is it a memorable moment, it also makes for a very powerful keepsake.

3. Commemorative gift.

More than just an ordinary present, a gift presented to a child or children during the ceremony will forever imbue the item with deep meaning. The gift is a great physical gesture of welcoming the child (or children) into the union. Forgo trendy or hi-tech options here; go with a cherished family heirloom or a symbolic piece of jewelry. This will make for a constant and welcome reminder of both this happy moment in time and a lifetime commitment.

Here at Björn & Company, we love creating beautiful moments that make for truly memorable weddings. Whether it’s the union of two individuals or two big families, we’ve got the tools, ideas, and resources to make sure that every member of the new family can be acknowledged in a special way. With our years of experience and creative abilities, we guarantee that your wedding experience will truly stand out in a way that is unique and timeless. To learn more about our wedding services, click here.

Cheers!

Björn VW